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Everyone has had some problems in their couple life at some point this is for sure. Some people have managed to solve them in time so they did not have to go through a break-up, but others were not that lucky. If you and your partner have decided to take a break from your relationship, things might not be the same the moment you get back together. If you want to know how to get your ex-girlfriend back, here is what you should and should not do in order to make things work again.

Do give them space

One of the first rules of trying to reconcile with your ex is to give them space. Try not to talk to her for several days or even a few weeks, because this will give her the chance actually to miss you. If you continue to call her every hour or so, it is for sure that you will only end up pushing her away from you. One of the main reasons why couples break up is the fact that one of the partners is too possessive towards the other. Give her space and time to realize that breaking up with you was a mistake.

Do not give them an ultimatum

Giving your ex enough space to think the decision through is a good thing to do. However, you should not set up a specific time until your ex should decide whether to get back to you or not. No one likes ultimatums, especially when it comes to relationships. Telling your ex-girlfriend that she has to make a decision in a month for instance will only make her not want to get back to you again.

Do change

You and your partner have come in this situation for a reason. Whether it is because someone cheated, because someone did not listen to the other enough or because one of you two was not too supportive, something brought you here. Think about what you did wrong in this relationship and try to find a way to fix this. An important step in reconciling with your ex is to admit that you were wrong first and that you have some things that need to be changed.

Do not ask them to change

It usually takes two to tango, so even though it was mostly because of you that you two separated, your partner was to blame as well. However, it is not recommended to ask them to change before reconciling, because this might end up in never getting back together. Take one step at a time. Tell her that you are willing to change yourself in order to make the relationship work and afterwards discuss with your partner about the things that she did wrong in your relationship. Bringing up the things that went wrong in your relationship first will only lead you to another argument, which is definitely not beneficial for your relationship. Discuss calmly about every aspect and try to fix the things that have brought you in this situation.

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